In my eagerness of fun, I look for all possible information about a potential victim for we both enjoy.
That is, as long as the possible “victim” interests me, of course.
That part is often omitted to go directly to physical play. And it’s great, indeed, since also for me two or three hours of session without major implications are fun.
But I enjoy tremendously the psychological part. I love making mine a mind, playing with it, testing, inquiring and even oppressing that mind at certain times.
A look, a word, a gesture, a tone of voice… and the slave will be alert making his whole being focuses on me. He will think, not always consciously, if any of his actions will be to my liking before starting it. He will analyze whether I’m bothered by something he said, something he has done or something that has been left undone, will bow down his head awaiting, ready to what comes, no buts, no fuss, no excuses…
Not easy to get to that point, is not a short or easy process and, for this it’s essential the involvement of two parts: my interest and his surrender. If one of them fails… game over