You already know that one of my fetishes is control. And I stand by that statement. But there is a difference between control and obsession.
I demand explanations when I consider it necessary or sometimes simply as a wake-up call to remember his site to any slave who would confuse permissiveness with unconcern.
I have a maxim that stands out in my relationships with mine: trust.
If I can not trust my slaves, everything fails. And if any lies with the mistake of break my trust, I face him with the facts in a gentle way and without drama, reminding him that if he does not want to stay on my stable, always can leave, doors are oppened. This tends to have an immediate effect on the submissive mind, finishing with unwanted behaviors in one stroke… or inviting him to open those “doors” to the close them when leaving (from the outside, of course) 😉
There are Mistresses who prohibit their submissives even to have a conversation in private with other Dominants. Mine have no restrictions in this regard. I feel sure of their surrender and I do not need to “force” them to respect me.
He who wants to be mine, feel mine, showing it daily. And not just because it’s what is expected of him, but because it is what he really wants.
Recently a submissive told me: “is that men see a panty gum and lose perspective.” Perfect, if this panty is what fills you, go for it, that I will continue with my life 😉