The phrase is good, right? By the way, not mine, I read it on the internet, in one of those pictures with cute characters adorning profiles and groups.
But (I have always “buts”), even if I can be the woman that many men need, I have not the Wendy complex. I speak about the Tinkerbell of Peter Pan. And she is a great example, because control is one of my fetishes, but Wendy tries to control the life of her partner neglecting her own and adopting a maternal role. My control is very different 😉
And there are many Tinkerbells, they will exist while there are so many Peter Pans.
I will tell you some of the features of Wendy and I’m sure you’ll recognize many women that you know.
Tinker Bell insists on make your life more enjoyable, does those tasks that you always “forget”, runs errands, reminds you of your appointments and those dates like birthdays and anniversaries, believes that in order to follow at your side has to sacrifice and resign herself, avoids bothering you with comments that make you angry, apologizes even without fault at all, respects your space and your outings without question…
Sure, Wendy also has feelings and sometimes gets angry, but she ends up excusing your behavior (because although some of the features I’ve described could be applied to a submissive, she is not), because she doesn’t want to cause a rupture that would be extremely traumatic and won’t risk the comfortable life she has gotten and will not give up under any circumstances.
Wendy is endearing, but she is wrong. Yet it is the life she has chosen and I respect her, even though we both know that she is not happy.
I think I’m the antithesis of Tinker Bell. But neither I identify with Peter Pan, as he lacks something fundamental to me: responsibility.