I’ve heard a stunning phrase on TV this morning. They talked about sadomasochism and the TV presenter allowed himself the spectacular phrase “Dommes and their slaves come to believe the role they perform.” How daring is ignorance.
Perform? I could understand he made reference to so many people living Domination/submission as a simple game, they play a role punctually, but it was not the case, since the context was refering an incident in the United States. I did not want to hear further of such accumulation of nonsense (there were more until I took the remote and changed the channel).
I’m not an actress, I live my reality and I am consistent with it, I know what I am and exactly the same in relation to those around me.
Is that the presenter plays the role of a parent, a “man”, a journalist? Is that the life of the people consists in acting/performing the role is expected of them?
I find it very sad to be acting for show. Sometimes we have to hide some things in other areas (I don’t proclaim that I own slaves in the vanilla world, for example), but it must be exhausting faking all the time. I imagine them forcing a perpetual smile on their faces with the resulting facial muscle pain keeping it without feeling.
We choose what we prefer to live, from birth we make decisions that lead us to what we are, some of us enjoy our lives without prejudices and other stoically endure that role awarded. Of course, then the crisis of identity and emotional problems come… Could that be why many people seek a sincere relief in the Mistresses they publicly disparage?