All Mistresses receive repeated offers of submission. The proportion Mistresses/submissives is very uneven and that means that in the rush to begin, a submissive offers himself to all in case any Domme heed him. And, therefore, we can afford to be very selective in choosing partener.
And that’s when we hear/read the judgments about true submissives and fake submissives.
The phrase “that one is not a submissive, just a wanker” is very comfortable and recurrent when perhaps that submissive is not right for that Domme in question and he can be a wonderful servant to another. Accept that not all are complementary to each and vice versa.
And I do not say that there is not much falsity, there is also (in all roles), but it would be desirable to practice tolerance, as I believe that everyone has the right to live FemDom as we want and that just involves the small effort to rule out those who do not want to live the same way we do.
I invest my time and dedication when beginning a new relationship and, of course, I demand a positive development in building the relationship. But if, after a period of trial, such submissive bores me or does not motivate me, my interest waver and go out to look for a new toy to have fun.
I don’t rule out someone I’ve invested my effort for anything, but if certain attitudes persist, if the training does not advance or rewinds every now, if I have to keep repeating the same thing over and over again, if I perceive any hint of insincerity, if I feel him distant even a few inches from me, I’ll finish by satiating my instincts elsewhere.
But all these conditionals do not mean that this puppy is not a submissive, perhaps the case is that this is not the proper submissive to me.