What is meant by a Dominant personality? A Domme has to do what pleases the submissive? or rather is the latter who has to please her? Do I have to park my desires and my will to… to what?
If I would behave as I see so many self-proclaimed dominants by social networks making cuddles to their subs (and note I know to reward my slaves in many ways, tenderness is not excluded from the Domination, but nonsense leftover), obeying all what these subs want, yielding to blatant manipulations to… What for? So that “your submissive”, accept sex tonight? So that the new slave take you to dinner and not be angry?
Come on!!! If your domination is to give a thousand detours to get part of what you want and bow to the wishes of others, I suggest you to review your role.
A D/s relationship is one in which the parties agree, want and enjoy an unequal relationship, with the place of each other clearly differentiated, in which may be a thousand variations and a thousand ways to build and live, but in which each site is well defined.
I can consens with a submissive in the early stages of the relationship, however, once the period of adaptation and mutual knowledge overcome and if he and I want to go on, it will be by my rules and my demands, not those of him. If he accepts, it will be wonderful. If not assumes, assimilates and accepts, then there will be no possibility to continue, because I will not bow down to his preferences. He is not obliged to accept my rules, of course, but I will not submit to his.
This is how I conceive Domination. Ok, now you can follow the whispers 😀